Friday, April 11, 2025
During the Date, carefully act Manners, Social Skills and Conversation
In a dating world where girls can ask guys out and nobody knows
who should pay, those old rules about dating from the 1950s no longer apply. If
the gold standards of dating behavior are now obsolete, how are singles in the
new millennium supposed to act in the dating circuit? Dating is not as rigid as
it used to be—which can be great for enhancing spontaneity and bring diversity
into dating partners and activities—and with flexibility also comes ambiguity.
Keep reading to learn the new dating rules and how to ensure a great first
date.
Great tips for making a great impression on
your date:
• If your date looks nice, tell them.
If
they don’t, tell them anyway!
• Give your full attention to your date.
Turn
off your cell phone, don’t look at other people and make sure you do not
establish a more friendly relationship with the wait staff than your date.
• DO NOT ridicule your date or make fun of other people.
Friendly
banter is okay, but make sure both of you are in on the game.
• Don’t get drunk.
You
can have a beer or glass of wine (if you are 21), but don’t get sloppy drunk.
• Say please and thank you when people do nice things for you.
If
your date opens the door for you or pays for the date, say thank you. And, if
you get to the door first, open it for your date.
• Be gracious about money.
Offer
to pay the bill, and then offer to pay half, and then, if your date refuses,
offer to contribute in some way. Contributions can be anything from paying the
tip, buying a drink after dinner or saying you’ll pick up the next date. The
goal is to not look like a moocher.
• Get to know your date, but don’t be pushy.
Make
sure you ask questions and listen attentively. Do not, though, make your date
feel like he/she is the target at a fi ring range and your questions are
bullets.
• Respect your date as if he/she is the president.
You
do not have to like their choices or what they want, but you must respect them
anyway. If your date does not want you to smoke, don’t. Laugh at his/her jokes,
even if they are not funny. Keep the conversation on dinner appropriate topics,
even if you are doing a different activity.
• Never, Never & Never presume
anything about sexual activities.
Please, for the sake of everyone, keep your
clothes on at all times. And, DO NOT
spring sex on your date!
If you have mutually agreed upon having sexual play, then
that is your business, otherwise, consider it a taboo activity.
• Most Importantly:
At the core of using your manners and social skills, people
merely want to be treated with respect, consideration and honesty.
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