Monday, August 18, 2025
Money Matters: To Pay or Not To Pay in Dating
The rules about who should pay are convoluted in dating, but try
to follow along:
• The best approach is to talk about the tab when
the asking happens.
“Let me take you out to dinner ... the movies ... etc.”
And, if you are doing the asking, you better are prepared for
the paying too.
• Give your date the opportunity to chip in if
he/she wants to, but do not make them.
A good way for the non-payer
to contribute is leaving the tip, buying
a drink afterwards or being the driver on the date. But, if your date does not
offer, then do not suggest it and just pay up.
• People are very opinionated about this subject,
so tread lightly.
If your date is insisting on paying his/her way and you are
traditional and think only one person should pay, then evaluate how
important your paying is to you. If you are
putting your date in an uncomfortable
position by not letting him/her pay, then he/she will unlikely go out with you again.
• Make sure you know how you are handling payment
before it’s time to pay.
You want to avoid the silent standoff when the check
is placed on the table.
• No matter who pays, both individuals should have
money with them.
Both you and your date should have enough money—either
cash or credit—to be able to cover the entire
date by yourself.
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