Monday, April 07, 2025
10 Tips Ways to Spice up Your Relationship!
Could your
relationship be a little more romantic, adventurous, spontaneous, harmonious or
more fun? Is your relationship as good as it can get, or has it lost a bit of
its sparkle and could do with a boost? If so, here are 10 suggestions to help
spice it up!
1. Know each other’s deepest desires and keep them alive and
growing:
Everything
we do comes from a desire and everything we think and do moves us closer to or
further away from our desires and each other. Learn what it is that each of you
desires the most. If you don't know, talk to your partner and share your
deepest desires with them. Talking is not just about communicating, it's about
connection. Then, create clear intentions and stay focused on your desires - be
it romance, fun, adventure, happiness, harmony, deep connection.
2. Make a commitment to your relationship:
What are you
committed to? What is currently happening in your relationship reveals what
your spoken and unspoken commitments are to. What are you spending your time
doing? Consciously carve out time exclusively for your relationship and to
committing to one another and making passion and love a priority.
3. Create new beliefs about how you can be together:
Our beliefs
about what is possible impact on our actions and the results we get from our
actions. If you're not experiencing what you want in your relationship, it
could be that you're being blocked by holding on to unhelpful beliefs about
what's possible. If so, create new beliefs about how you and your partner can
be together that are aligned with your desires.
4. Allow your partner to be different and learn from them:
What's
different between us and our partners can often be where the spark is. To keep
that spark alive, we need to accept, appreciate and honour our partners'
differences.
5. Look for opportunities to pamper and spoil your partner:
Pampering
can be as simple as letting your partner sleep in late, while you make
breakfast and take care of the kids, or allowing them to relax while you wash
the dishes after dinner. Or, it can be bringing home a little surprise gift
that you know they'll love, like ice-cream or a favorite CD or magazine
6. Remind yourself what it was that attracted you and what you
loved about your partner when you met:
You should
find (give or take a few kilos) that those things are still there; they just
need to be rediscovered and celebrated.
7. Touch your partner in loving ways:
When we
touch, we connect at that moment. Give your partner gentle touches, hugs and
kisses so they can feel your love and connection. Or touch their heart, by
giving them a hand-written love letter.
8. Make time for intimacy:
Even when
you and your partner are both running on busy schedules, be sure to take time
to be intimate. If we do not priorities our basic human need for intimacy, we
risk feelings of being unloved and unappreciated creeping in. As you set
intimacy as a priority in your relationship, you'll soon find other things in
your life will start to fall into place as your relationship is strengthened.
9. Spend regular time alone together:
It's
difficult to have a successful relationship without spending at least one morning,
afternoon or night a week alone together, free from distractions of family and
work responsibilities. Experiment and find fun things to do together. Have a
picnic in the park or on the beach, go kayaking or bush walking, get massages
together or better still, give each other a massage! Your dates don't need to
be expensive but your intention needs to be to connect and focus on each other.
So, if you love going to the movies, seeing live bands or going to the theatre,
have dinner beforehand or coffee and dessert afterwards. A true date means
you're spending time looking at one another, not at something else.
10. Plan romantic or fun and adventurous activities:
As well as
having a regular weekly date, plan for a few longer get away times each year of
at least three days and two nights that you can spend enjoying quality time
together. Use this time from your daily responsibilities for family, home and
work. If you're a romantic and your budget allows for it, go to a beautiful
exotic island like Fiji or Hawaii and sit by the water sipping cocktails. Go
lower budget and go camping and 4-wheel driving or rent a beach house or a bed
and breakfast in the mountains and spend time just focusing on each other's
needs.
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