Relating to your former partner
Some people
believe when they separate they will no longer have to deal with their former
partner. But if you have children, this is not possible – you remain linked
forever as parents.
The
challenge is to make the ongoing parenting relationship as manageable and as
constructive as possible. Be civil to your former partner, irrespective of how
he approaches you, but never compromise safety.
Constructive
co-parenting involves establishing a businesslike relationship with your former
partner. Here are some practical tips to assist you.
- Remember to keep your goals uppermost.
- Focus on the children, not the past relationship.
- Hold meetings at a neutral location if possible.
- Use the telephone, email or a communication book if face-to-face discussion is a problem.
- Consider legal advice, mediation or counseling if you have difficulties.
- Be flexible. Children have commitments and special occasions will arise.
- Do not breach or allow any breach of a court order that prohibits contact with your former partner.
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