We all need more love in our lives. The best way
to turn your sexual experiences into loving experiences is to improve your
sexual skill level. Through the mastery of skill, sex becomes lovemaking. This basic idea, that more skillful sex creates
more pleasure, which then creates more love, is important for having a
successful relationship.
Remember that every time you bring a new
skill into the bedroom it is best to practice it several times, as skills
require repetition. Everyone is clumsy the first few times. Have fun exploring
these suggestions for more pleasurable, intimate lovemaking!
The “TO DO’S” for
men
1) Do respect your desire to be sexual and create a life for
yourself and your partner that supports a good sex life.
2) Do increase your own artistic ability as a sex partner no
matter how skilled you feel you already are. Just as business must continue to
grow to be successful, so must your sexual skills. Listen well when she tells
you what she likes. Listen really well.
3) Do continue to initiate and watch her reactions carefully so
as to increase the effectiveness of your initiation.
4) Do listen to what she has to say even if it sounds like
criticism. It is food for growth. Teach her to give you suggestions in a manner
you can work with and not feel criticized by. Tell her how you need her to
communicate with you so you feel inspired and not torn apart.
5) Do allow yourself to take on the receptive role in the sex act
and thus trade responsibilities with your partner. It will help you empathize
with her and can make sex very exciting. You may be surprised with what happens
to your sex life.
6) To learn more about how to utilize sexuality to improve the
quality of your life, check out “Passion Play”: Ancient Secrets for a Lifetime
of Health and Happiness through Sensational Sex.
7) Do let her know what you appreciate about her sexuality, her
looks, her actions and her efforts in every aspect of your life together.
8) Do confront her if you feel she is avoiding sex to avoid
intimacy or vice versa.
9) Do let your partner know if you are hurting as a result of
her actions (or inactions) regarding sex. Share your pain while keeping the
blame out of it and let her nurture you.
10) Do be creative, very creative. Surprise her with something
new and different in bed as often as you dream it up. Let your daydreams be
about new sexual activities you can do together.
11) Do begin making love to her with your words and gestures
hours before you do so with your body. This way her feminine energy, YIN, will
be more aroused when the time comes.
12) Do let her know what you want sexually. If she doesn’t know
how or doesn’t feel comfortable, help her take one step at a time toward your
desired goal. Be patient, but persistent.
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